Brain vs Heart

Cranky Old Man...

When an old man died in the geriatric ward of a nursing home in an Australian country town, it was believed that he had nothing left of any value.
Later, when the nurses were going through his meager possessions, They found this poem. Its quality and content so impressed the staff that copies were made and distributed to every nurse in the hospital.

One nurse took her copy to Melbourne. The old man's sole bequest to posterity has since appeared in the Christmas editions of magazines around the country and appearing in mags for Mental Health. A slide presentation has also been made based on his simple, but eloquent, poem.

And this old man, with nothing left to give to the world, is now the author of this 'anonymous' poem winging across the Internet.

 

Cranky Old Man

What do you see nurses? . . .. . .What do you see?
What are you thinking .. . when you're looking at me?
A cranky old man, . . . . . .not very wise,
Uncertain of habit .. . . . . . . .. with faraway eyes?
Who dribbles his food .. . ... . . and makes no reply.
When you say in a loud voice . .'I do wish you'd try!'
Who seems not to notice . . .the things that you do.
And forever is losing . . . . . .. . . A sock or shoe?
Who, resisting or not . . . ... lets you do as you will,
With bathing and feeding . . . .The long day to fill?
Is that what you're thinking?. .Is that what you see?
Then open your eyes, nurse .you're not looking at me.
I'll tell you who I am . . . . .. As I sit here so still,
As I do at your bidding, .. . . . as I eat at your will.
I'm a small child of Ten . .with a father and mother,
Brothers and sisters .. . . .. . who love one another
A young boy of Sixteen . . . .. with wings on his feet
Dreaming that soon now . . .. . . a lover he'll meet.
A groom soon at Twenty . . . ..my heart gives a leap.
Remembering, the vows .. .. .that I promised to keep.
At Twenty-Five, now . . . . .I have young of my own.
Who need me to guide . . . And a secure happy home.
A man of Thirty . .. . . . . My young now grown fast,
Bound to each other . . .. With ties that should last.
At Forty, my young sons .. .have grown and are gone,
But my woman is beside me . . to see I don't mourn.
At Fifty, once more, .. ...Babies play 'round my knee,
Again, we know children . . . . My loved one and me.
Dark days are upon me . . . . My wife is now dead.
I look at the future ... . . . . I shudder with dread.
For my young are all rearing .. . . young of their own.
And I think of the years . . . And the love that I've known.
I'm now an old man . . . . . . .. and nature is cruel.
It's jest to make old age . . . . . . . look like a fool.
The body, it crumbles .. .. . grace and vigour, depart.
There is now a stone . . . where I once had a heart.
But inside this old carcass . A young man still dwells,
And now and again . . . . . my battered heart swells
I remember the joys . . . . .. . I remember the pain.
And I'm loving and living . . . . . . . life over again.
I think of the years, all too few . . .. gone too fast.
And accept the stark fact . . . that nothing can last.
So open your eyes, people .. . . . .. . . open and see.
Not a cranky old man .
Look closer . . . . see .. .. . .. .... . ME!!Remember this poem when you next meet an older person who you might brush aside without looking at the young soul within. We will all, one day, be there, too!

The best and most beautiful things of this world can't be seen or touched.

They must be felt by the heart!

Don't Sabotage Yourself!!!

We humans are funny. Often we create beliefs or engage in behaviors that seem to help us in the short term, only to discover they get in the way of the lives we really want to live, or the people we want to become.

Allow me to share the story of my friend, Erin. Over lunch one day, she told both her mentor and me about a division director job she had truly wanted. The role offered good challenges, the chance to develop her skills, fabulous travel, and unparalleled flexibility. It would have been "a dream come true".
But then Erin began to recite a litany of reasons why she hadn't gone after the job. She wasn't good in interviews, having never received the coaching that so many candidates are privy to these days. She was overweight, which would surely make a poor impression. On top of all this, due to the economic downturn, many people more qualified than she would apply. She thought she'd be great at the job if she could have made it beyond the interview, but all things considered, she "knew" she hadn't stood a chance.
"So I never applied," she told us. "Instead, I sent the advertisement to a peer and encouraged him to interview." She paused. "He got the job."
How was it that this bright, hardworking, lovely young woman also had such an aptitude for self-sabotage?

There are plenty of smart, even gifted, people like Erin. They are bonded by a common behavior psychologists call "self-handicapping," which involves anticipating a real or imagined obstacle that might get in the way of success, and using that obstacle as an excuse.

Self-handicapping allows us to protect ourselves from the pain of assuming responsibility for our failures, and people do it all the time. In a groundbreaking 1978 study, psychologists Berglas and Jones found that participants who "succeeded" at a test (that was really just luck-based) were more likely to choose to take a performance-inhibiting drug before taking a second test. In other words, they actively set themselves up for failure on the second try. By doing this, they could blame their subsequent poor performance on the drug, and also protect their earlier feeling of success.
In a more recent set of experiments conducted by psychologist Sean McCrea at the University of Konstanz in Germany, participants were asked to take several intelligence tests under a variety of conditions. The research showed that people who were encouraged to make excuses for their poor performance — blaming poor performance on loud noises, for example — maintained high self-esteem, but were also less motivated to improve.
This kind of behavior is often so subtle and habitual that we don't notice we're doing it. Think about the manager who has to give a big presentation and fails to practice ahead of the event, or people who procrastinate on work projects and wind up "not having enough time" to do a good job. In a 2010 HBR article, Jeffrey Pfeffer identified self-handicapping as one of three major barriers to building professional power: people avoid the pain of failure by never trying to build power in the first place.

What can you do to overcome self-handicapping? Here are four steps:

1. Watch for the warning signs. Drawing down your efforts, generating lists of excuses, or distracting yourself (music, alcohol, etc.) are signs that you're engaging in self-handicapping. Everyone needs to take breaks and manage energy during the work day, but these activities can be clues that you are veering onto the trail of self-sabotage. A mentor or colleague can often help steer you back on course.
2. Use "what-ifs" and "if-onlys" to help you generate goals instead of excuses. Research shows that the thinking people engage in during self-handicapping can just as easily be flipped to be motivational. When you ponder what could have gone better, or recognize obstacles in your way, you generate valuable information. Identify factors within your control, and see what you can do about them. Erin, for example, could have responded to the thought "I'm not great in interviews" by researching the right skills, practicing them, and requesting support from her mentor.
3. Recognize and manage your negative emotions. Research shows that when we use our "if-onlys" to motivate rather than excuse ourselves, we will also likely experience negative emotions, such as disappointment and self-directed anger . If you can notice these emotions and be kind to yourself in working through them, you're more likely to be able to move into positive, empowering behavior.
4. Go for mastery. Self-handicapping is most likely to kick in when we are trying to perform well in order to avoid negative feedback from external sources, such as criticism from colleagues. When we focus instead on developing mastery in a domain we care about, we tap into our inherent motivation to learn and grow. Recognize what matters to you, and brainstorm ideas to get yourself moving in that direction.

Going for what you really want takes considerable courage. Let's face it, even when you put forth your best effort, things don't always turn out as you would like. But by taking a risk you open yourself not only to the possibility of failure, but also the possibility of learning, growth, and real attainment. It's up to you to decide which is more perilous: the risk of disappointment, or the risk of never reaching your potential.



by Susan David

At the end of the day:

 This is how it manifests itself:

o I decide to water my garden.

 

o As I turn on the hose in the driveway, I look over at my car and decide it needs washing.

 

o As I head towards the garage, I notice mail on the porch table that I picked up from the postman earlier.

 

o I decide to go through the mail before I wash the car.

 

o I lay my car keys on the table, put the junk mail in the recycling box under the table, and notice that the recycling box is full.

 

o So, I decide to put the bills back on the table and take out the recycling first.

 

o But then I think, since I'm going to be near the postbox when I take out the recycling paper anyway, I may as well pay the bills first.

 

o I take my chequebook off the table, and notice that there is only one cheque left.

 

o My extra cheques are in my desk in the study, so I go inside the house to my desk where I find the cup of coffee I'd been drinking.

 

o I'm going to look for my cheques, but first I need to push the coffee aside so that I don't accidentally knock it over.

 

o The coffee is getting cold, and I decide to make another cup.

 

o As I head toward the kitchen with the cold coffee, a vase of flowers on the worktop catches my eye – the flowers need water.

 

o I put the coffee on the worktop and discover my reading glasses that I've been searching for all morning.

 

o I decide I better put them back on my desk, but first I'm going to water the flowers.

 

o I put the glasses back down on the worktop, fill a container with water and suddenly spot the TV remote control. Someone left it on the kitchen table.

 

o I realise that tonight when we go to watch TV, I'll be looking for the remote, but I won't remember that it's on the kitchen table, so I decide to put it back where it belongs, but first I'll water the flowers.

 

o I pour some water in the flowers, but quite a bit of it spills on the floor.

 

o So, I put the remote back on the table, get some towels and wipe up the spill.

 

o Then, I head down the hall trying to remember what I was planning to do.

 

 

At the end of the day:

Ø The car isn't washed.

Ø The bills aren't paid.

Ø There is a cold cup of coffee sitting on the counter.

Ø The flowers don't have enough water.

Ø There is still only one cheque in my chequebook.

Ø I can't find the remote.

Ø I can't find my glasses.

Ø And I don't remember what I did with the car keys.

Ø Then, when I try to figure out why nothing got done today, I'm really baffled because I know I was busy all damn day, and I'm really tired.

Ø I realise this is a serious problem, and I'll try to get some help for it, but first I'll check my e-mail...

Ø Do me a favour. ,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,I don't remember. 

 

 If this isn't you yet, your day is coming!

Aj Phir,Today Again.

Aj phir,

Ankhon ko intezar hai

Aj phir,

Dil beqarar hai

Aj phir,

Teri yad ayi hai

Aj phir,

Umeed kasmasai hai

Aj phir,

Ghar ko sajaya hai

Aj phir,

Julf mein Gajra lagaya hai

Aj phir,

Shama raushan ki hai

Aj phir,

Khidki band ki hai

Aj phir,

Sans ruk si rehi hai

Aj phir,

Jism me gudgudi si hai

Aj phir,

Waqt tham sa gaya hai

Aj phir,

Gahra andhera hua hai

Aj phir,

Ek aas jagi hai

Aj phir,

Ek aag lagi hai

Aj phir wohi aaj lagta hai jo aaj roz ata hai;

Jab ankhen thak jati hain

Jab dil so jata hai

Jab yad kho jati hai

Jab ummeed ro jati hai

Jab ghar khandar rehta hai

Jab gajra bikhar jata hai

Jab shama bhuj jati hai

Jab khidki khul jati hai

Jab sans ruk jati hai

Jab aas toot jati hai

Jab waqt guzar jata hai

Jab andhera chat jata hai

Aj phir wahi aj lagta hai jo aj roz ata hai;

  

Translation:

Today again,

I wait for you

Today again,

My heart ache for you

Today again,

I miss you

Today again,

I wish you

Today again,

I adorn my place

Today again,

I bun with lace

Today again,

I light the candle

Today again,

I close the handle

Today again,

I am short of breath

Today again,

I tickle to death

Today again,

Time hanged

Today again,

Night blend

Today again,

Theres’ desire

Today again,

Hot like fire.

Today again,

It seems this today comes everyday;

whereas

wait sweeps

whereas

heart sleeps

whereas

miss u lot

whereas

a wish lost

whereas

scattered place

whereas

shattered lace

whereas

end of dark

whereas

windows bark

whereas

breaths stop

whereas

hopes flop

whereas

time pass

whereas

gloom surpass

It seems this today comes everyday.

©humorsome

I Feel The Same Way ''YOU DO''

When One Disappear As Sudden As S/He Appear

When S/He Touch Your Soul With Their Heart

When Friends Become Strangers

When You Can Have Him/er But Choose Not To Have

When You Feel His/er Emotions As Your Own

When You Have Everything But Your Heart Still Empty

When You Live In This World But Belong To Another World

I Feel The Same Way ''YOU DO''

©humorsome

Time and Tide wait for none…

Time and Tide wait for none…

Cloak-and-dagger known to some.

Time as treasure, Tide as money

Show once and for all “Be the ONE”.

Simple to write, simple to say…

Lazing around;

It’s just another day,

You’re my treasure

My pleasure;

Thinking back;

“Things you say’’

Bygone Time, Bygone Tide…

I wait for you to come my way

Nothing but ''Treasure'' my pleasure

I don’t need “YOU’’ anyway.

©humorsome

Courage It Takes...

Courage It Takes...

Courage it takes,

to let it go

When you've control over,

Courage it takes

to smile

When it tears your heart apart,

Courage it takes

to be silent

When you can contend,

Courage it takes

to love back

When you detest by,

Courage it takes

to wait infinite

When your world begin

when you die,

Courage it takes

to declare

I am "COURAGEOUS".

©humorsome

OFFICE - OFFICE (Women Vs Men)

Woman 1: I had a fine evening, how was yours?

 

Woman 2: it was a disaster. My husband came home, ate his dinner in three minutes and fell asleep in two minutes. How was yours?

 

Woman 1: Oh it was amazing! My husband came home and took me out to a romantic dinner. After dinner we walked for an hour. When we came home he lit the candles around the house and afterwards talked for an hour. It was like a fairytale!

 

 

At the same time, their husbands are talking at work.

 

 

 

Husband 1: How was your evening?

 

Husband 2: Great. I came home, dinner was on the table, I ate and fell asleep. It was great! What about you?

 

Husband 1: It was horrible. I came home, there’s no dinner because they cut the electricity because I hadn’t paid the bill; so I had to take my wife out to dinner which was so expensive that I didn’t have money left for a cab.

We had to walk home which took an hour; and when we got home remember there was no electricity so I had to light candles all over the house! After all, I was so aggravated that I couldn’t fall asleep and my wife was jabbering away for another hour!

 

 

6 Tips for Staying Supercharged...

Here are six ways to help you develop a core base of energy:

1. Get a good night's sleep.

I hear about people who sleep only four hours a night, but I don't recommend it. Those who don't get enough sleep may get away with it for a while, but without the proper amount, you won't be as productive, creative or resilient over the long run. The body and mind need rest to recharge. I try to get seven to eight hours of sleep a night and still be the first up in the morning. For me, that means going to bed at 9 p.m. and rising around 4 a.m.

2. Write down your goals twice a day.

Make a list of your goals when you wake up in the morning and again before you go to bed. This will help you stay focused on what you want and why you want it. I'm not talking about your to-do list; I mean the much bigger goals in life you are trying to accomplish: why you are going to work and what you are trying to achieve. Concentrating on these major goals will help fuel your passion and energy.

3. Exercise daily.

A regular physical workout will energize you and give you a sense of direction, control and power. A good cardio or strength workout in the morning can increase your belief in yourself, get the adrenaline flowing and increase your stamina for the rest of the day. During my workouts, I try to include some inspirational or learning time so I am working my mind while working my body.

4. Dress for success.

 Dressing sharp will change the way you view yourself and the way others view you. Dress in a manner that suggests that you are proud, prepared and confident of success. People appreciate it when you make the effort to look professional. Their admiration can provide the kind of positive energy needed to sustain you through a challenging day.

5. Surround yourself with supportive people.

You might join organizations or clubs where you are all doing something you're excited about. Also, try to get your family on the same page with you. If your spouse, children, parents and siblings celebrate your wins with you, it will go a long way toward keeping you motivated and energetic. My wife will break out in the Running Man dance when I report a closed deal or other exciting news.

6. Create a "no negativity" policy at home and work.

The people who work around me know they will get their heads handed to them if they ever are negative around me. That doesn't mean I don't want information that may be foreboding. But negative talk like, "We can't do that" or "That's not possible," is not allowed. My companies all have "no negativity" as an operating policy because that kind of thinking does nothing to energize people and motivate them to find solutions.

Remember, you will always face obstacles and challenges, but maintaining a high energy level will enable you to power through the rough patches that forge the greatest entrepreneurs.

BY Grant Cardone

How change can be good for you!

Why do we change?

Something we ask ourselves almost daily. Something we experience from people who were once so close but now are miles away.

Something that we all hate, but just like rain in January; it’s inevitable. Change, no matter how good it is for us, we tend to resist it. No matter how bright our future may seem ahead after that change, our brains still linger on to what we know. Our hands tremble from fear of the unknown.

Our heart calls on the past one more time to take the last walk through these roads we know like the back of our hands. Change isn’t just about people, your job, or even your address. Sometimes change comes from within, you stop liking the things you liked, you stop loving the people you loved, and you simply stop tolerating what you could handle for the past decade. Just like a baby who does not want to be breast fed anymore, he reaches out for a spoon. The thing about change is, it’s the beginning of every new chapter in this book called Life.

It’s the sign of a new start and an ending to what was once a “start”. Nothing stays the same; you yourself weren’t consistent throughout this life of yours. Every once in a while you look for something new to do, you meet new people and seek new friends, you change your haircut or color, you even don't maintain the same body so why do you expect things to stay the same when even You have changed?

The best thing about change is that it can be good and if it’s not good, that will change !

By: May Rostom

(!@#$%^&*) "DOODLE" Secrets you should KNOW...

                                                                                    

Yes Most of us DOODLE! Even if we don't admit to it!

But whatever the doodle, it is often a totally unconcious drawing whilst our mind is concentrating somewhere else.

It is surprizing to that we  tend to repeat the same selection of favourite patterns,i.e dots,boxes,triangles.circles.our names- the choice is endless.doodling can help to relieve tension particularly if we press hard it is said that it can calm our nerves too.

i.e. dots, boxes, triangles, circles, ouryyscious drawing whilst our mind
It's surpd tend to repeat the same selection of favourite patter

particularly if we press hard it is said that it can calm our nerves t

Why do we doodle?

Because we are unlocking some of the hidden anxieties in our everyday life.

But what do they mean?

Let's work out a few explanations.

Stairs and steps - open to relationships

Webs - an intricate web shows a desire to accumulate friends, money and status

Squares as opposed to rounded shapes indicate a need for order and structure

Slashed lines - this is an angry person

Open boxes - a practical and logical thinker

Writing your own name over and over again means egotism

Bold arrows - very determined, great drive, direct

Retraced patterns - a perfectionist

Triangles - Suggest an aggressive personality, highly competitive

Flowers - are imagination - love of beauty and a search for love

''People who DOODLE learn Faster''